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How do you cope when you are flaring but you have obligations?

Lupus flares can pop up unexpectedly and don't take into consideration your upcoming plans, or obligations with work, family or friends. How do you cope when you are fighting a flare in the midst of life obligations?

  1. I don't real be around anyone

    1. , We hear you. The physical toll that lupus takes on the body is so extreme that we often forget about the mental and emotional toll it can also take. One of our patient leaders wrote an article about how lupus impacts their sense of isolation and loneliness: https://lupus.net/living/loneliness You are not alone 💜
      Gabby (team member)

    2. that’s so hard to be in anyone’s presence while flaring. I completely understand that. ~Racquel~ lupus.net team

  2. 😘

    1. It depends. If I'm in a lot of pain and exhausted, I don't go out. It may have caused some people to be angry but, basically, I do not commit to anything optional from May thru September.

      1. that is a great way to set those boundaries and take care of you ~Racquel~ lupus.net team member

    2. I push through along with take pain reliever as needed.

      1. , I hope you are able to take care of yourself and take it easy once you have met those obligations. Even if it's just making a cup ofyour favorite drink and snuggling under a blanket for thirty minutes (or whatever self care activitiy sounds best to you).


        Best, Erin, Lupus.net Team Member.

      2. aww I know that feeling. Of pushing through. I hope you also make time to rest. Sometimes I know I can push through and overdo it. ~Racquel~ lupus.net team member

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