Afraid to ask for help?

, goodness, I don't blame you one bit. It's hard to be vulnerable and ask for help and then be rejected. Especially since Lupus can often be what we call an 'invisible illness', it can make it harder for people to believe you when you say you need help. Thank you for starting off the conversation here.


Best, Erin, Lupus.net Team Member.

I can definitely understand that. It can be pretty hard to deal with. ~Racquel~ lupus.net team member

Definitely understandable. It's hard especially at work with people who would not understand. It gets to a point where you are hiding your pain and just pushing through. ~Racquel~ lupus.net team member

oh I can relate to this on such a personal level. I am an RN, the year I was diagnosed I was out a LOT on FMLA. So I left them short a LOT. So when I could, no matter how bad I felt I went. Bc I didn’t want to seem incompetent. I tried three other jobs also trying to hide my illnesses and I did for awhile. I had some really great coworkers along the way who would help me and i was so thankful. But once I couldn’t, I couldn’t. My diseases had progressed to a point where I couldn’t work. So you are in no way alone. I think most of us have dealt with this fear at one time or another relating to our health. You just have to do what feels best for you, in regards to asking for help. Amber (lupus.net team moderator)

This definitely a valid fear. So many people will try and judge and say things that are so cruel. ~Racquel~ lupus.net team member