Needing advice from those who have experienced it

Hello, my name is Brandi. I'm 41 years old and have had some sudden changes to my skin and several unexplained rashes in the past 3-4 years. I don't have a formal lupus diagnosis, but I have almost every single symptom of lupus. My dad does have a formal diagnosis and I take after my dad in a lot of ways. I don't like going to the doctor, as I'm sure no one does, but my dislike is more of a total avoidance. I had a son pass away during premature labor, and I developed severe panic and anxiety disorders. I also began to suffer from a mental disorder known as agoraphobia (not to share too much but I'm sure I'll receive questions as to if I have seen a Dr and, if not, why I haven't). So, to say that I have to be dying to go to a Dr is an understatement, because I probably wouldn't even go then (kidding). Anyway, I was hoping just to receive some input from those who have lupus, and experience(d)the related skin rashes. I have had several rashes on my hands, and a couple on my face (even progressing into sores in my mouth during my first one about 3.5 years ago). When I get it on my hands, it doesn't always present itself in exactly the same way, as you'll see in the photos. But it always itches and my hand always swell up badly. Because I'm at a higher predisposition for having lupus, because my father has it, and because I have so many other symptoms (constant fatigue, feet and hands swollen in the morning, unexplained weight loss, pain in my joints, the skin rashes, and most alarmingly, some signs that something isn't right in my urinary system... Maybe I'm producing too much of a protein.. I'm not sure but I don't really want to get into details about that particular symptom). I think that I should probably get tested, but I just want to get some opinions on whether or not these skin rashes are similar to those that lupus patients have experienced. From the research I've done, I think that it's possible they're a sign that I have lupus. Any input would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance to anyone who takes the time to read all of this and answer. I appreciate you!