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Give Me My Life Back, Lupus

I want my old life back. Yes, I want my old life back. I want to be able to work and come home. I want to be able to help my husband provide for our family without getting sick. Why should lupus have to make that determination on whether we can do things with our life?

Imagining life without lupus

Sometimes I wonder what my life would be like if I did not have lupus. There are so many things lupus has drastically change my life for. Now that I decided to go back to school, I put on my big girl pants and wanted to see what online school life was like. It was more convenient than I ever thought. I can work on my own time. I have a full week to do my work the way I want to on my time. The work to me is so much easier and I can be a full-time mother to my daughter. But sometimes I look past all that and say, what if I can work and be a better person for my daughter?

The financial strain of lupus

Financially, lupus is starting to put a strain on me because sometimes I cannot afford my simple lifestyle. The money the government gives you to live off will not even cover rent in the society we live in today. When I started school, I made the determination to finish for a better life for me and my family. I know when I graduate and start working the money will start coming in. I told my husband for the first time in years that it felt good to be back in our own place and he said yes it does. Lupus took that comfort from us. Lupus changed my life and my spouse's. He had to grow up even faster at a young age to help take care of me, which I completely appreciate him for that.

The road back to self-love

When I lost everything, I mean I lost everything. Self-control, dignity, self-love, and sometimes I could not recognize myself. I wanted to find and love myself again. I wanted to gain that control back. It took me at least 5 years to gain that control back. That is how long it took me after a kidney failure.

Sometimes it takes people way longer to get back on their feet and I completely understand because I went through it. I wanted to show my daughter that I could provide for her without needed any type of help. It might not mean much to others, but it means the world to me. I know that I am not alone in feeling this way. So many people that I met lost everything. They were about to graduate college, and something happened. Lupus happened. I met a woman, such a beautiful woman that lost her battle to lupus a few years ago. Her name was Kay and she made me want to keep living. She didn’t experience nearly half the things that I have, and she remained strong and lived each day like it was her last and I live for her.

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