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Loving Yourself Beyond Lupus

"To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don't need to be accepted by others; you need to accept yourself." –Thich Nhat Hanh

It can be hard to accept and love yourself beyond the pain that lupus can bring. But it is completely necessary. There are some steps that you can take to begin the process of loving who you are beyond lupus.

10 steps to love yourself beyond lupus

Begin your day with positivity

First, start your day in a positive mindset to get through hard days. Spend time focusing inward daily to clear a path to a better day beyond your pain. Remember, how you begin your day is how your day will ultimately be.

Speak happiness over yourself

Yes, it is very difficult to deal with and fight lupus day-to-day. That is the reality. Sometimes positive affirmations help to get your day started. Affirmations can put some happiness over you and create a productive walk in your day.

Get honest with how you feel

Get honest with yourself about how you feel about your battle with lupus. Acknowledge those feelings and begin to process them. This will help you heal emotionally. Remove the mass to deal with lupus positively and purposefully. Realize how important your emotional state is in healing your body beyond the constant pain.

Allow yourself to relax

Breathe, relax, and let go. It is necessary to stop fighting against yourself. To understand and deal with your emotions when you're in pain, let your body and spirit rest. Do this before your body and mind force you to.

Be patient with yourself

Don't blame yourself for things you have no control of. It is not your fault that you have lupus. Be patient with yourself as you go through the process of learning your body and dealing with a chronic illness. You are fighting a hard battle. Give yourself some compassion.

Accept Unpredictability

Lupus is so unpredictable, and as a warrior, it's important to accept that. It's the only way to live in your present moment in peace. Accept the unpredictability, and don't continue to get yourself angered over it.

Forgive yourself

Forgive yourself for being your harshest critic during your most difficult times. Especially since having lupus is no easy feat. Removing self-criticism will help you move peacefully in your moments. Ultimately, you should forgive yourself for judging yourself in the times when you need to love yourself the most.

Be real

Be honest about how you feel at all times. In detail, the time has come to stop hiding behind the masks. Be real with how you allow yourself to be seen, known, and heard. Begin to allow people in your lupus world, so you are not creating a superhuman to those who misunderstand what lupus is. As a result, you will be able to show the realness of lupus to others.

Focus on your positive

Get in your head and your heart that you are amazing beyond lupus. You are still able to fight. You are a warrior that is thriving despite lupus. Therefore, believe it and receive that power into your life.

Seek professional help

Finally, lupus can create self-rejection and neglect. You deserve to be happy beyond lupus. You have the right to be accepted and loved by YOU. If necessary, seek help from a support group, a counselor, a coach, or a minister. It will be the best investment in yourself that you will ever make.

In conclusion, loving yourself can be one of the hardest things to do while battling lupus. At times, we get down on ourselves and notice every flaw. We focus on who we used to be instead of the greatness of who we are in this very moment. In light of that, we need to recondition our love of self. Whenever you can, do what you need to do to make yourself feel good and feel happy. Don't try and be perfect. Just be proud of who you are beyond the limits lupus imposes. Work on these steps and start instilling a love for yourself beyond lupus.

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