Hi, . First, I am so sorry you are dealing with a flare right now. They can be exhausting and frustrating, I know.
Second, don't think you ever need to minimize or explain your pain here. A flare is a flare and your experience is no less valid than someone else's. And go ahead an complain away! I mean, if you can't complain on a Lupus site, where *can* you complain? We all need a place to vent once in awhile.
All that said, the length and severity of flares can vary widely. Some flares can last a few days, while others can last months. It's really hard to put a timeframe on how long they will last.
So, I'm going to provide some information about flares that hopefully, you find helpful -- https://lupus.net/triggers-flares. It's pretty basic information, but when it comes to flares, the best you can do is try to minimize flare triggers and practice good self care. I know that's kind of an annoying non-answer, but, at this time, it's the best advice the medical community has for people living with Lupus. I wanted to share one more link to an article where our contributors share how they manage their Lupus flares. Maybe some of their suggestions will be useful for you. https://lupus.net/living/flares-coping.
Please know you are not alone in this and I do hope you get some relief very soon!
Best, Erin, Lupus.net Team Member.