Judgment from Others

I am really pissed off right now. No, I mean it…smoke coming out of my ears, head exploding kind of pissed off! Why do you ask? I’ll tell you. It’s because of some of the uber confrontational, judgmental online influencers that seem to judge anyone not obeying their eating and fitness regimes. So much so, in fact, that some are saying the people who aren’t 100 percent healthy are weak and do not matter during this COVID-19 pandemic.

They don’t feel these people would survive anyway, so why are we punishing the rest of the world by shutting down for this group of individuals? The economy is tanking and we are in quarantine for a small group of compromised people. Seriously?!? Who gives them the almighty right to judge people like us…just because they haven’t been dealt the lupus card (or any health issues for that matter).

"All of us matter"

This is taking “fat-shaming” to an entirely new level because we are not just criticizing people for being overweight…no, we are actually condemning people with autoimmune issues, people fighting cancer, the elderly, and anyone else that isn’t on a Keto, intermittent fasting, vegan, carnivore, CrossFit, kettlebell obsession (and I do follow some of this to an extent).

Somehow this group of everyday individuals who are considered “compromised” are the innocent lambs to be slaughtered for the greater good of the economy…and the people who can’t bear to stay socially distant to protect the masses. I can’t say what the best solution is for the world to get through this unscathed and with little to no impact on the people, the economy, or our emotional well-being. That is above my pay grade. What I can say is, "WE MATTER!" Yes, we…as in all of us, matter!

"That does not mean I matter less"

I do believe in doing what you can to help protect and build your health, even if this pandemic wasn’t taking place. However, it doesn’t mean that I matter less because I’m overweight due to many factors over the past years (reasons not worth getting into). It doesn’t mean I’m worth less because I have autoimmune issues. It doesn’t mean that I matter less because I indulge in a dessert or watch Netflix instead of going for a 6-mile run.

All of this judgment I’m seeing promoted online, by some people, creates more separation between us. It’s placing blame on a group of people who are considered “compromised” according to health standards, yet it’s not considering the possible factors involved (genetics, anxiety/depression, eating disorders, age, etc).

I corresponded recently with one of these social media influencers who believes there is no reason for people to socially distance or businesses to shut down temporarily. His thoughts are that if people aren’t fasting, eating keto, and exercising…they aren’t doing what they need to and they are hurting the rest of us. Hmmm…I’m thinking an online influencer reaching hundreds of thousands of people creating hate and separation among groups of individuals is causing more harm than the guy who isn’t fasting for 3 days this month. Just a thought!

Do I believe we all should do our best to take care of our health? Absolutely! However, it is not my place to tell you how to do that! It is also not my place to judge you or condemn you if you choose to not do this. I can support, encourage, or even coach you…but, only you can decide how you want to live your life. During this time of upset, let’s choose kindness instead of judgment. Let’s choose hope instead of fear. In the end, we are more similar than different.

By providing your email address, you are agreeing to our privacy policy.

More on this topic

This article represents the opinions, thoughts, and experiences of the author; none of this content has been paid for by any advertiser. The Lupus.net team does not recommend or endorse any products or treatments discussed herein. Learn more about how we maintain editorial integrity here.

Join the conversation

or create an account to comment.

Community Poll

Did you have the Epstein-Barr virus (EBV) or Mononucleosis (mono) before learning about your lupus diagnosis?