My health has been on a downhill slide for about three years. I need to enlist more help from my adult children with household and outdoor work. I was very ill about three years ago from Shigella ( think E. Colli on steroids) and very dependent upon them for several months as I recuperated. I eventually improved and now I am ill again! I am an RN so I am used to providing care not asking for it. This makes it very difficult for me. My physician now suspects lupus and we are now doing advanced testing. Any suggestions you would like to share for having this difficult conversation would be helpful!